Food For Thought...

So as we (im)patiently wait for our ingenious web Dr. to botox our site, we've been stocking up on content for you and a few weeks back we came across the above image of our boyfriend Kanye and his lady love "Amber Rose." Now, if you remember our original post concerning Ms. Rose (and the subsequent apology we offered) you'll remember that we originally wrote her off as, well, slightly trashy. I mean, its somewhat obvious that not many woman can pull off the "full-frontal spread Eagle" she mastered in Smooth Mag (image at right).

But beyond our sour introduction, perhaps she is somewhat refined after all? Perhaps we were wrong all along and the Louis Vuitton advertisement above shows the real amber - or maybe Kanye has rubbed off on her and she's a "full frontal" reflection of him now, complete with ARGRESSIVELY sexy ad's like this.

See, beyond how adorably innocent and loving this smart advertisement shows Ms. Rose to be, it begs the question:

In time, does EVERYONE eventually take on their lover's image? Is an Amber-like makeover a famous-relationship birthright or do transformations like this plague us all and does taking on a new lover mean ultimately shedding
your own image?

For Instance:

One of our own knows a woman we'll call, "Losty Lucy." Well, by many standards Losty was a woman in charge - and still is. She recently purchased a new condo, has a job she was promoted within quickly and she's cute - some might argue that she's full-on pretty. However, whenever Losty took on a new lover her personality followed shortly.

1. When dating the neo-soul 5 Percenter guy she grew out her perm and started reading the likes of "The Miseducation of the Negro," when before she would tote around self-help novels and inspirational reads like "The Secret."

2. When she started dating the political-minded law student with Barack Obama dreams she ditched the long sun dresses and started wearing sweater sets with David Yerman jewelry.

3. When she finally rounded out to the weed smoking artist-type she went vegetarian soon after.

And while the examples above are particular to one vacant woman we've known, there a multiple people out there suffering the same fate.

Moral: If you ever find yourself hunting for someone to "change" just turn to your bathroom mirror. Wipe away the steam from mirror and take a LONG look at YOU. Change is always possible but it starts with yourself. Nobody should make you change. Nobody should make you forget who you are and above all, nobody else should make you go Vegan. So tread lightly sirs as you attempt to find your lady loves. After all, love doesn't hesitate and love doesn't judge. If you want your lover to change who they are you never loved your lover to begin with.

Footnote:

1. There is NOTHING wrong with reading "The Miseducation of the Negro" - especially since so few people know their own history, but really? Everyone who gave a damn read it at age 8 - so carrying it around as a show piece makes you look a DAMN fool and reading it should be done behind closed doors. I mean, really. Move on to Assata for public praise.

2. David Yerman. There isn't MUCH wrong with David Yerman either - if you live in the Mid West. See, wearing David Yerman is like having acrylic nails - if you live outside of Orange County (and you aren't Gwen Stefani) DO NOT rock them. They're unequivocally trashy.

3. Be Yourself. Its just better that way.